PRAYER REQUESTS: Slipping back into porn HELP!
  • qwertsterqwertster March 2012

    I got clean and was away from porn a long time and got really close with God, but now when I feel lonely and insecure I've been slowly finding myself in places I shouldn't be online. I feel like I'm never going to go anywhere in life and that everyone will look down upon me. I catch myself feeling guilty of all the sexual sin I've ever done in life. I feel like my future wife (whoever she may be) will be disgusted in me and I will never have a deep relationship with God because of it. I feel so corrupt and broken and like a hypocrite to what I believe. PLEASE PRAY FOR ME!

  • eastcoasteastcoast March 2012

    Many guys have been down the same path and ended up marrying nice girls any way. Don't despair and keep believing God's love toward you through everyone, including a future wife.

  • SXDXCXSXDXCX March 2012

    My gripe about this. As much struggle as there is to live a PURE lifestyle we also must accept that we are designed to be sexual creatures. In my opinion, lust is a part of attraction. I find it almost oxymoronic to feel guilty about having sexual thoughts about a woman. You find yourself attracted to a woman you want to have sex with her...because God designed us to be sexual, to have a proper sexual relationship with one woman and to reproduce the species.

    So "to lust for a woman is adultery" (granted I'm NOT God) but isn't THAT taking things a bit far. I see a woman. I lust for her. I don't LUST for every woman I see. You're trying to tell me that I'm suppose to have nothing but PURE thoughts about the female species when I'm human and am designed to reproduce the species...thus the original intent of sex.

    Maybe I will have a future wife...MAYBE I won't...I'm human...and I like sex.

  • eastcoasteastcoast March 2012

    Matthew 5:28 is a warning not to lust for a married woman, since adultery under the Law meant having sex with another man's wife. Thus, they are forbidden candidates sexually, including even thinking about it in any serious way. Its not about unmarried women. BTW this is a prayer request thread SDC.. we're here to pray for and encourage qwertster.

  • @SXDXCX...you're making a lot of sense...start up a thread about it...

    @qwerster
    ....you are not disgusting to those here...I am not disgusted with you...you are welcome here..."Father, please surround our Brother with Your Understanding, Your Grace, Your Arms of Love....speak to him before, during and after his wanderings of sexual adventure...redeem what is broken, strengthen him to fight off the attacks and shame and condemnations of the Enemy....refresh him with Freedom and Hope...Amen."

  • SuricouRavenSuricouRaven March 2012

    Eastcoast is correct. The bible says nothing to condemn lust itsself (Song of Solomon really celebrates it!), but it is very strict on the matter of adultery. Women were regarded as property back then - to have sex with another man's wife was the most serious and insulting form of theft, so to even entertain the possibility was forbidden.

    Interestingly, it doesn't apply the other way around. Women are forbidden to have sex with anyone other than their husband, but men are free to play around as much as they could wish with unmarried women. Even Samson visited a prostitute, and all the kings of Israel had many concubines. But then, the rules were written by men, so what would you expect?

    The idea that sex is made for use between one man and one women in lifelong marriage without exception is not biblical in origin. It originated some time after the new testament was written, in the early Christian church, and became firmly established, but it isn't anywhere to be found in the text of either testament and wasn't a part of the culture at the time of writing.

  • irish03gatorirish03gator March 2012

    @SuricouRaven
    Not sure I agree with you on that one. I feel like this article here explains some of what I would say to oppose the thought that the whole "one woman-one man" concept isn't to be found anywhere in the Bible.

    http://christiananswers.net/q-eden/edn-f008.html

  • irish03gatorirish03gator March 2012

    Lord, bless our brother with your presence of love and forgiveness. Thank you for once again reminding him of how weak we are in our own strength and willpower. You are our source of freedom and mercy. Give him grace Lord. Come quickly Holy Spirit and renew his strength and faith in you. I pray this in your name Jesus. Amen.

  • SuricouRavenSuricouRaven March 2012

    After reading that, I have reached a firm conclusion: Ancient greek is weird. What type of language is it that can produce the greatest philosophers of the ancient world, yet can't express the concept of 'husband' in a single sentence?

  • March 2012

    @suricouraven- And can someone please explain to me what lust really is....without a bias. And I feel like porn addicts and former porn addicts alike have biases -_-

  • SuricouRavenSuricouRaven March 2012

    Not much to explain. It's one aspect of the human mating instincts.

  • eastcoasteastcoast March 2012

    Second Reminder: This is a Prayer Request thread. We need to open a new thread to discuss the meaning of the word lust in the Bible. @superanonymouse Here's a link to get started on your study: http://mysite.verizon.net/vzer017a/answersforx3forum/id16.html The word translated "lust" simply means desire. The context determines whether its a good desire or a bad desire. Please start a new thread if you want to or go to the one I started on "is it good to steal porn?".

    Regarding the article: It was an attempt to analyze the phrase "husband of one wife". They did a fair job; I thought it was good that they said these weren't a strict set of rules but general guidelines. They did well with their analysis UNTIL they said it could mean "a divorced person". This is obviously wrong and they should have said a person who has remarried after a divorce, thus having more than one spouse in God's eyes. Then they suggested that it meant a person who was dedicated to chastity in marriage, yet that's not likely to be the meaning, since it adds to God's law for married men and is unlikely to explain the parallel phrase about the widow being "a one-man-woman".

    Since the widow was applying for church welfare, it would be assumed that if she had more than one husband, she would have inherited his estate and had her dowry as well, maybe two dowries. So, the phrase "husband of one wife" is more likely intended to forbid putting away one wife in order to marry another one. Jesus warned against this when he talked about a man who divorced his wife in order to marry a new woman: this caused the first wife to commit adultery. He should have kept both wives and not been so greedy for money. Serial monogamy was a big problem back then.

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