PRAYER REQUESTS: I need some help! How can i help my boyfriend to stop masturbating and watching porn?
  • micaela1micaela1 February 2012

    Hi, I´m a Christian girl from latin america and I have a boyfriend who I
    met in church 4 years ago, we had been together for 2 years now and I
    just discover that my boyfriend watch porn, I feet so bad about it and
    I had being telling him that he should stop and that is not right to
    do that, I don´t wanna leave him because I love him and I wanna get
    marry with him, but I know that he needs to heal that problem first,
    things had been really bad with him lately he doesn´t want to go to
    church, he said that he loves God but he doesn't know how to stop
    masturbating and watching porn, he doesn´t wanna talk with any of our
    pastors or people in church and I seriously don´t know what to do
    anymore, I´d being trying to help him, but honestly I don´t know how
    to do that anymore, the other day he told me that he loves me but he
    doesn´t wanna hurt me and that he doesn´t know if he wants to get
    marry with me or not... I love him so much but this is hurting me too,
    and if he doesn´t wanna be with me anymore I feel that if I left him
    he will get worst, so I will appreciate all your help. I don´t know
    what to do anymore... How can i help my boyfriend to stop masturbating
    and watching porn?

    please pray for my boyfriend.

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  • 3rotherdaniel3rotherdaniel September 2012

    Ill pray for him my friend :) Much grace and mercy to you and your boyfriend. Lord Jesus I ask that your hand would guide your daughters hand that you may be her one true love and security. Lord i pray for your son that he too would find true love and acceptance in you. Lord i pray for obiendence and no condemnation in his heart from the enemy. Lord we cannot do this without You. Amen.

  • nighthawk2117nighthawk2117 October 2012

    i would stop dating him and be just friends, he's already cheating on you but more imprtantly he's cheating on god. if he is serious about quitting here is the battle plan i am currently using. step one stop cold turky no tapering porn and masturbation. step two bounce your eyes, meaning when ever he looks at a women imidiatally look away this will prevent small amounts of sexual excitment building up during the day untill self controll just isnt enough. when ever you are around him you should dress extremely modestly, no tight clothes and show as little skin as possable. step three, he has to be acountable to somone he has to vocally confess his sin and renounce it before god. its up to you as to wheather you want to be the one he is acountable to but its not easy. somewhere along he will probably fail and at that point he will be temptade to think "i did in once might as well do it alot" this is called bingeing, this will seperate him from god making him feel hopless and worthless.

    i hope he is receptive

    god bless you and you bf

    i apoligize for the horrible spelling

  • 3rotherdaniel3rotherdaniel October 2012

    Lord I ask for wisdom amen! Also we should remember God's grace and mercy which He had for our lives. Also does he have male friends? We must be careful we don't go into a co-dependent relationship ;) Its hard, but healthy male men in his life will do allot more good than a caring girlfriend. He needs to be lifted up and built up with some good male loving and correction ;) Does he have male friends that can intervene? Let them know and see what they can do. Do they feel comfortable talking with him and going over to his house? We need to mend his relationship with God others then himself. He has isolated and we must get him out of that but be careful we don't slip into his habit ;) Bless you sister He is your brother first, boyfriend second :)

  • paulg1paulg1 November 2012

    Dear Micaela, the best thing you can do is not concentrate on the problem, it's like this if you say 20 times a day 'I musn't think about sex' what have you done 20 times in that day, so the best thing is to distract the mind and focus on what it should be thinking of. There are many things you can do for me going to church and concentrating on my relationship with God was a great source of relief and comfort and it took my mind off of my problem. I would like to say it is easy 'like put peri-peri on his palm' but it is not so pray for him and keep bringing him back to reality. This is a long journey if you are not prepared for it, best is to explain the reasons and move on.
    My God please give this young girl the strength to do what she needs to do, do not let her fears keep her from achieving the plans you have for her.

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