say what?

oh nevermind. I guess you shouldn't trust anyone who you already know to be a blabber mouth

Be careful Amy. Your story is scandalous in most people's ears, so I would tell very little. Maybe just put blocking software on the computer and have your husband keep the password and email accounts secret from you. If you were my wife, I don't think it would bother me that you are horny and acted out privately, as long as you were committed to me in the marriage. I wouldn't want you chatting with guys online, because I'd be concerned for your safety, etc. Everybody has different degrees of sexual desire and their interest rises and falls. (Women top out in their 30's usually, guys in their 20's). It may be that you are so obsessed about this, that it makes it all the more enticing to your mind. The guilt factor and fear of being found out all contribute to the addiction itself, it drives the adrenaline rush, which is part of the addiction.

Have you checked out these videos? They might help. http://youtu.be/N0DkBPWg_s8 From the Inner Gold therapy group.

Yeah i know, i thought i could trust this one girl, cause she said she's here for me and that i should trust her and on and on. so i told her my story, but it turns out that she went behind my back and told quite a few people, and i've been keeping my past a secret for several years. and now i don't know what to do.

Trust. No-one.

Tell people on the internet instead - people who have no idea who you really are. If they don't know you, they can't hurt you.

hmmm, good point!! lol!!

Trust little, keep much.

XXXChurch has begun X3Groups as an online accountability system, I guess via Skype or such.

As Ronald Reagan said: "Trust, but Verify."

I am not as cynical as SR, but I am very skeptical of people in general in terms of what I entrust to them about myself....One good rule-of-thumb: if your "friend" is telling you something rather personal/private about another "friend" of hers, then that's your evidence that she will disclose something about you to another, EVEN if she says: "You can trust me, I won't tell a soul."

There are very trustworthy people in the world, but it is our job to discern who they are and NOT be naive and mindless about everyone we come across who is nice and "friendly", without testing their character....Ex: "Oh, she seems nice and caring...she is trustworthy!"...Wrong!...Life and people don't work like that...I've learned the hard way.

I gather the x3groups is a 'whatever works' system. Skype is first preference. I don't really know how they do it though - it costs money to get in.

@SuricouRaven I take it that you wanted to join a group and make your furry confession? I'd like to read that transcript... it would probably rival the other one you posted.

I know already thay x3 only takes confessions from repentant sinners :>

You might like to visit their Facebook page sometime. Its a little more tolerant than the GetHelp forum. I've only been banned there once I think. That's a miracle in your book even.

I refuse to get a facebook account.

@eastcoast: How is my story scandelous? Like what do you mean when u say that? Just wondering.

I'm not criticizing you Amy, I'm empathizing with you. You gave your story here once and you've been through a lot, more than most people have had to deal with. That's why I said you should be careful who you talk to and what you tell them. Take it slow and I hope you find peace in your journey.

Oh I know. I was just wondering what you meant. :) Thank you ever so much!!! :)